A friend said, "We are down on what we're not up on." What he meant was that when we get down on someone, we have trouble seeing the good in them. And when we're up on someone, we have trouble seeing their faults. It's hard to be neutral. We see what we want to see.
The implications for this lack of personal objectivity are staggering! Because we are just as likely to be wrong as right about someone.
We can all do a better job of cutting people some slack. I know I can! It helps me see the bigger picture by often reminding myself that at one time we all "were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved" (Ephesians 2:3-5).
The message? Don't trust your own best thinking. Why blow up a relationship for the wrong reason?
Until every church disciples every man...